What do we do when we’re finally alone with our sexual
partner, very in the mood and eager to start AND finish things off but don’t
have a condom?
Well, whether or not you’re just rubbing against that
special spot, or other methods, there are other ways that can get you to achieve
the orgasm or ejaculation that you’re searching for.
5 Ways To Achieve Sexual Satisfaction Without Intercourse
HAND JOBS, FINGERING, & SEX TOYS
Depending on your comfort level, there are multiple options
to explore. If you’re open to self pleasure, there is always the old
school method of using your fingers to help yourself get to completion while
your partner participates. Good old, Rosie palm and the 5 sisters can always be
handy…
If you’re looking for an alternative way to achieve
ejaculation or orgasmic satisfaction, you can go with the classic hand job. But
if you’re looking to spice thing up a bit, the Tenga Egg is a great alternative
for male masturbation. It’s an egg shaped silicone device with a hole on the
bottom used for inserting lube and your penis. They come in different textures
for different experiences. Each egg is filled with lube to enhance your
hand-job. Perhaps the best part about this, if giving yourself an orgasmic
hand-job wasn’t enough, you can ejaculate into the egg and either wash it out,
or throw it away and try a different one for a different hand-job experience.
If you’re looking for a more upbeat and engaging way to give
or receive pleasure, you can also try the LELO Siri 2, which is a new
sound-responsive sex toy that can stimulate you to the beat of your favorite
songs. A little singing and stimulating never hurt nobody. If you’re in the
mood for something more luxurious in the sense of personal pleasure, there’s
also the LIV 2 which offers internal and external stimulation to get you
to your climax.
WATCH PORN TOGETHER
If you have difficulty getting in the mood by yourself, or
just need a little extra mental boost, watching pornography together can help
facilitate mental stimulation, which can lead to both penile and vaginal
arousal.
ORAL SEX
While oral sex such as blow jobs and cunnilingus (or as commonly known as eating out, and I
don’t mean Chinese food) do involve bodily fluids and more often than not do
not include condoms, there is a significantly less risk of pregnancy through
oral pleasure than intercourse as there is no penile vaginal contact. Keep
in mind that you can still get virtually almost any STD through oral sex.
Oral sex is pleasurable in different ways depending on the individual, so it is
important to be responsive, open and understanding to your partners likes and
dislikes.
Sexual activity is not fool-proof, even if you don’t have
intercourse. You still need to be aware of STI’s and pregnancy despite the lack
of vaginal/penile penetration.
Dry humping without underwear on, using or sharing sex toys
or touching yourself and then your partner can exchange one another’s bodily
fluids.
STI’S
Anytime that your genitals are exposed to another person’s
bodily fluids (semen, vaginal fluid, saliva, or blood) you can be at risk of
sexually transmitted infections. With oral sex,
you also run the risk of STI transmission , after all, bacteria and
viruses like warm, wet places like mouths and genitals. In order to be
most efficient with your STI screenings, make sure to wait 2 weeks after your
last exposure to receive testing for bacterial infections and 3 months to be
tested for HIV. Herpes
will typically show symptoms relatively soon after it is contracted, but can
take up to 6 weeks to appear after transmission or even longer!
Bottom line:
If you think you may have been exposed to an infection of
any kind through sexual contact make sure to go to a doctor to have it
properly diagnosed and make sure to let your partner know. If sexually active,
routine STI testing every 3-6 months is best for your sexual health, depending on
your activity.
PLAN B
Whenever you come in contact with bodily fluids, there is a
possibility that pregnancy and STI transmission may take place. If you are
worried you may become pregnant, taking Plan B One Step, or other emergency contraceptive pills can
be used as a last resort contraception option for up to 72 hours after exposure.
Emergency contraceptives do not protect against STI’s.